How do I involve others in my transition?

Your first step as you begin to move forward in your transition is to conduct an audit of who is currently present in your life and begin to identify the ways that they might support you.

Perhaps you need 30 minutes of reflection time each day, or help cooking a meal, or for someone to take on the bill paying responsibilities in the household, or a listening and supportive ear as you give a voice to self doubt and the challenges you are experiencing.

After you have examined the people that are around you and the types of help that would make a difference for you, consider approaching people to ask if they could help you with this one activity. I invite you to be specific about what you need, for how long, and how this help will allow you to move forward. Let the person know how much you would appreciate their support and help and ensure that the person is willing to assume the responsibility you are seeking to share.

At the end of this process, there may be a few gaps. This is the time for creativity. What’s missing? What are some other creative ways of getting the task accomplished? Does it really need to be done? Can a barter arrangement be made with another friend to help them with something in exchange for assistance with your project? Explore, explore, explore. The possibilities are endless.

Warm regards,

Beth Page
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What do I do when things aren’t going my way?

When events in our lives are challenging, we can become de-motivated and filled with doubt. What are the strategies for moving through these periods? There are a number of options. First, breathe deeply. The tendency when we become focused on what’s not working is to become a shallow breather. Breathing deeply allows us to re-connect with the essence of our core in a very simple and powerful way.

We can offer ourselves the gift of surrendering in the moment. This does not mean pulling out a white flag and giving up. It means acknowledging in this moment that we need to lean into what is happening rather than struggle against it. Pause for a moment or two and reflect on what’s happening and the alternative options and possibilities that exist for defining the situation. Are there some key lessons that can be taken from the experience?

Finally, we can realize that not all things are within our control. Often we think of decisions as being right or wrong. Marsha Sinetar, the author of, “Do What you Love, the Money Will Follow, once described the image of a sailboat moving from point A to a future point on the horizon. She described the sailboat as tacking first to the left and then to the right. The sailboat did not move in a straight line to its destination. The same is true for moving forward on our dream path. We may think we are making right and wrong choices, but if we reflect on the image of the sailboat, we are actually making right and left choices to help us navigate our path forward to our ultimate goal.

Warm regards,

Beth
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How do I deal with the losses? What do I do with the endings?

William Bridges in his book, “Managing Transitions” offers us the perspective that there are no new beginnings without endings. What endings are necessary for you as you seek to create space for new beginnings?

One of the key gifts we can offer ourselves when we are experiencing an “ending” in our life is to grieve the ending. Too often, in the push forward, we forget to reflect on what an ending means to us. We benefit from taking some time to honour ourselves and the ending. What change is the ending bringing about for us? What was the gift from the experience? What is necessary in order for us to move on in a way that honours us? Allowing some time for self-reflection, for grieving and for closure will allow us to truly release the ending and look towards the new beginning we wish to create for ourselves.

Warm regards

Beth
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Author of Done Deal: Your Guide to Merger and Acquisition Integration
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